Dating an ex friends ex husband

Keeping your thoughts limited to this tightly knit circle will also prevent you from blabbering your opinion about the new couple to everyone.

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Don't overcompensate with fake happiness: You don't have to pretend to like what's happening, so don't overdo it with sappy sweet congrats and good wishes If you get caught in a confrontation, just smile, have a pre-planned friendly sentence or two to recite, keep it short and sweet, and move on. You probably don't want to get any closer to the action than you need to, so when you're stuck in the same social scene, take the seat at the opposite end of the table, or strike up a conversation with the cute guy or girl at the other end of the bar.

Until you're comfortable with the situation, it's best to avoid confrontation -- it can only make you upset and say or do something you may regret. If you're the person dating your friend's ex, you've got a much harder job. Talk to your friend: Ideally, you know that at best this situation is uncomfortable, and it's your job to talk to your friend. Your new partner your friend's ex should as well, but remember that they have broken up, while you and your friend are still "together.

If you want to keep your friendship, the worst possible thing you can do is lie. For most people, when all is said and done, it will be more about how you handled the situation versus the situation itself. What won't be excused is dishonesty -- for example, making your friend believe it's "nothing serious" when it really is, or lying about where you really were on Friday night when you bailed on that group dinner. This will destroy trust, and with it any chance of maintaining the friendship. Same advice, different meaning.


You've got the relationship; your friend does not. Try not to flaunt it. There is probably a reason that your friend and the ex broke up in the first place, and over time your friend will most likely realize that. Don't force them to come to that conclusion any sooner than they are comfortable with.

Once you've had the initial conversation about the situation, we suggest backing off and letting your friend come to you, when the time is right. I still truly care about her and wish her happiness in her life, but I too want to be happy.

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I've had several unhappy relationships. If there is one thing we all want The time I've spent with my friend's ex has been some of the greatest times of my life. He is like a new person, so different from the person he was when he was with her, and I feel like I've found someone that is on my level in so many ways.


We've anticipated everything that is happening and knew that it was not going to be easy, but when we are together, it's worth it. I've never been hung up on the physical side of it It's unique because it's him and I. But we aren't Jerry Springer people.

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We know that's it's not the best choice and that yes there's lots of people out there to date What if I never found what we have again? Walk away to make someone else happy? We know how we feel, and can't make anyone really understand, because to other people it just seems selfish and tacky and cruel and disrespectful, but that's never been our intentions Is it still so wrong? Another problem is that people think I should really try and talk to her, to try and explain, but what can I say? How I can justify what I've done to her.

I should have been there for her at the time that her marriage was ending but instead I hooked up with him. To many people that is unforgivable So is it an insult to try and explain it to her or more insulting to not talk to her about?

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It seems like now I can't hold my head up high around some people, and although I am happy when I'm with him, nobody believes it is a healthy relationship or that it will last, so it makes it hard! What do you think? Share Share this post on Digg Del. It will take time for it to get any better. Just stay away from her for now.

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