She was saving for years to travel and wanted to start out in India, a place that's quite intense as a lone woman to go to. I skyped her one night and managed to somehow get her passport number.
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I made up some story about helping her find flights I think. I had a fair bit of money and booked our flights without her knowledge while we were skyping I then dropped the "we are going travelling in 8 weeks time" bomb.
Anyways, we set off to fly to India and things were amazing. We obviously spent every hour of the day with each other and grew closer. Our travels have taken is to 11 country's and 14 months later I was offered a full time job and sponsorship in Australia for a company I have always admired and wished to work for.
My friend and now love of my life and I have now moved to Australia and could not be happier. Our friends at home all predicted this but neither of us had any intentions of this happening. We buy our first mattress together on Saturday I like how the mattress is when shit is getting real. Not traveling across 11 countries together over 14 months. In my experience traveling is the best way to gauge compatibility with someone. It worked for me.
Hey man, confessing worked for me, basically wrote a text essay to her and we met up the next day. Went out for a year. I think that most guys do it after their feelings have reached a point where it's bubbling over. If they do it early, the feelings don't really have a chance to feed on the "what if" of it all and makes it much easier to handle. True, but at that point, it's easy to tell yourself it's a passing fancy or just regular attraction. It's not until that point of no return that I can accept I really like a friend and want more. True, lots of people do.
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But as for what I see, a minority of people don't. And yeah when it doesn't work out it's such a kick in the nads. I did this once and her put me in friendzone and she just fading herself from me and stop talking to me. But now it just about to happen again with another girl. This girl is my colleague, We've been working together for about 2 years now. Previously, I never thinking her because she had bf and I also dating on another girl. But last year I broke up with the girl that i dated and she also broke up with her bf. Until last 2 months while we're waiting for a team meeting. Since then, i always start conversation with her.
And I've asked her to hangout on holidays together for few times and she always say yes. I feel that everything are pretty good. At this point, i'm about to tell her how i'm felling. But my past is keep haunting me and I'm afraid that she did good to me because she is treating me as a good friend. I'm afraid that if i told her everything will ruin again.
In my personal opinion, a confession of feelings is pretty intense and weird. It would probably be better to just ask them out on a date - and state it's explicitly a date. She might be attracted to you but not have any strong feelings and so can't really respond positively to "I really like you". Asking her out on a date will directly show her you are interested while implicitly tell her you like her.
Doing this will also polarize the situation by allowing her to reciprocate in a comfortable manner. And this is why my girlfriend in college and I argued a decent amount. I tended to show and not say things out loud and she tended to say the things and not show. This is why my advice works. If you say, hey lady, I like you a lot, please be mine - that puts a lot of pressure on her and can make the friendship really weird.
Every time she sees she'll know how you feel. If you just ask her out on a date, the feelings are implied, but she won't know exactly how strong they are. If she says no, you can move on and be thankful you didn't have any huge declaration. You could say something like, "Hey, I've been picking up a bit of a vibe from you and wondered if you'd like to go on a date with me on Friday?
Thank you to the brave ones for not leaving us in the dark! Glad it worked out for you! More females need to be willing to admit too though. They don't want to ruin their friendship. I am usually the one to approach men and tell them I like them. The one time a guy approached me, it was my friend and we had so much chemistry it was popping out of our ears! But you are right. More females need to open up too.
It's a two way street! This is pretty much how all of my relationships have started. I've almost always been the one to discuss my feelings first.
I've had plenty of misses, and only some awkwardness afterwards, but it's gotten me into several relationships as well. A few months, then we talked about being official and dated for over a year. Then I dumped her, broke her heart, created a lot of turmoil in my friend group as she tried to win me back, and now we're back to normal after a few years. We made eye contact, she complained she was cold.
I asked her if we wanted to go back to the car and get a sweater outside at a party she said no its fine.. She got pissed off with me and wanted to cut off contact. The conversation got intense and weird. I feel reasonably safe assuming she caught feels and assumed they wouldn't be reciprocated. People get defensive when they realize they're about to be hurt. Hey same thing happened to me! She got really pissed off at me one night and told me to stop treating her like a girlfriend, we were never going to date, and she didn't want to talk to me ever again. Started dating the next day.
Women are fucking weird man It's a really long story, but the short version is that she admitted that the real reason she was mad at me is that she was jealous that I had gone out on a date with another girl. She admitted that she actually did have feelings and was only pushing me away because she couldn't handle seeing me with someone else.
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Yada yada yada, the next day we were together. That's why in romantic and rom coms aimed at women the guy always has to have other women pursuing him. She's my best friend. Was only ever interested in said dude for last minute hookups overall laziness , as he was a part of our group.