It took around a month before I even would want to speak to him. It might have been the way he ended it with me, but I absolutely could not get over the pain. So, I had to let him go as a friend and move on.
Yes it is a risk, but speaking from someone who has a boyfriend who is my best friend, I could not be happier. Weigh whether it's worth the risk what you have to lose or gain with the relationship and talk it over before starting anything. A lot of dating has to do with body language. If a guy is flirting with you and you don't like him, don't play along to mess with him or because you enjoy the attention. If you don't want to date him don't give him any kind of signals. If you're wondering why your significant other isn't responding to you or making time for you, ask them.
Write them an email, find them at school and ask if they can make time to talk. Communication and honest are important to a relationship and if they overreact or can't make time for you, it's not worth it to sit around and being anxious about. Ask them what it means. They may be trying to find a way to tell you what's wrong or they may be struggling with some sort of family problem. You never know unless you ask, and you should never jump to conclusions. If you're jealous of your boyfriend hanging out with other girls because you're scared of losing him, trust that he's not going to cheat on you or be unfaithful.
This might be hard for people who have low self esteem or have been hurt in the past, but be sure to talk to your boyfriend and be honest with them. Tell them why you don't like it, honestly.
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I'm a firm believer in not jumping to conclusions even if I had been previously hurt in a relationship under the same circumstances. If you always go into a relationship expecting the same thing, you're never going to be able to let go of the past and treat your significant other right. People need to recharge and just be apart, but don't let your jealousy turn into a controlling personality. You can't control someone, nor should you want to. Your significant other should like to be around you because they like it, not because they're afraid of making you mad. One of the worst things you can do when starting a new relationship is to carry over any of the baggage or judgments from your previous experiences.
Just because the guy or girl you were with before cheated on you or treated you badly and never made any effort doesn't mean that this new person is going to be the same. Talk to your partner and tell them why you feel insecure about what is happening. They should understand and be able to help you get over the pain. There's always a certain amount of healing from previous years and hurts that you will be able to heal in your partner and vice versa. Be understanding and open, but don't jump to conclusions. Remind yourself that this is someone different and that they deserve to be given the chance to prove that they are better.
This is another one of those control issues. Don't ever go into a relationship and expect to change the person. If they drank before you got into a relationship, don't expect them to stop. If they're a social person, don't expect them to not want to be social. If you get together with someone and expect them to give up who they are for you, you're not getting into the relationship for the right reasons. I wish there was a better answer, but really, it just takes time. Don't go rushing into a a new relationship just because you hate to be lonely. Take the time you need to heal and then try again.
You'll have a lot of healing to do when you do find someone new it will take a while , but you'll find someone who will be able to take that hurt away. Talking to friends and relying on them and your family are helpful. I remember talking to my friends and about how I felt. My hardest break up took around a half a year or so before I began to feel okay being myself again. Although, I didn't feel completely whole again until I found someone whose love took away that pain and showed me more love and compassion than any relationship I had previous.
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No, there is nothing wrong with you. You may be too shy for people to want to approach you to ask you out, or you may just be giving off an uninterested air to you. Finding someone to love takes time and I have found that if you're actively looking for it, you'll either find the wrong people by attracting people because you're more desperate and not happy with yourself , or it just won't come. My best advice is just to wait and meet new people.
I have always found the best relationships by not looking for them. Someone people are more focused on their studies and hanging out with friends than playing the dating game. If you're happy with it, don't worry about other people. In your high school years, a lot of people are very immature, so if you're someone who is more mature for your age, you may find the whole high school dating thing to be a waste of time. Your high school years are a time to find who you are. This includes who you are in a relationship, after a break up and how you function caring for another individual. Your first heart break and relationship will be the hardest to get over.
You'll learn more about yourself and about love than any kind of advice you can be given. Trust, honesty, compassion and understanding are all traits of a good relationship. Follow your instincts and heart. If you're not happy with who you're with try to figure out what is missing. Communicate and see what can be done about it. Sign in or sign up and post using a HubPages Network account.
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Comments are not for promoting your articles or other sites. Aaron Seitler - there's nothing embarrassing about any experience you may or may not have had in your love life. I even once told a guy that we didn't have a cordless phone just so I didn't have to admit I didn't want to talk. It said a lot about myself at the time, and also about him.
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If I couldn't trust the person I was with enough to tell him I didn't want to talk to him, I definitely didn't want to be with him. My high school love life has been embarrassing at best but hopefully as I go into Year 11, armed with your advice, maybe my fortune will turn for the better.
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Wow, thank you all for the kind comments and for sharing your experiences in high school! It's great knowing that everyone had similar experiences and would have found or do find this information useful. I think dating is fine, but not getting majorly involved and seeing it for the long term. This probably isn't the person your will be with forever.
I look back at high school just had my 20 yr reunion last month and I had a boyfriend for 2 years but we never had sex and I think high school is perfect for getting your feet wet, but nothing else ;-. Congratulations on HOTD, well deserved!
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I think dating in high school is a time of discovery for many and oftentimes, very awkward. I think you have provided some very important and useful advice for teenagers having to deal with high school dating. Thank you for sharing. Wow, this is an awesome hub!
Congratulations on your HOTD! I get reminded by my HS days: I see the difference in our generation with the generations these days. But I did not date anybody during HS because I didn't have the chance to know a lot of boys because my school is only for girls. I started to date when I was in the university and it was quite boring LOL. Thanks for sharing this hub. Congrats on your Hub of the Day! During high school, teens are really seeking to find their identities and becoming autonomous individuals.