We just started dating and i want to break up

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I've been on both sides, many times. I've had my heart smashed to bits twice, and I'm pretty sure I've smashed a couple. I've been on the receiving end of a casual relationship ending over text message, Facebook Chat, the "phase-out," and the "I'm gonna drink few glasses of wine while you tell me you're seeing someone more seriously now and we can no longer talk. And maybe it's because my current relationship has actually lasted longer than two weeks I wouldn't be surprised if our friends had a betting pool going so it won't seem completely insensitive to blog about it, or maybe it's because I feel convicted enough in my research to let the judgment fly, but either way, let's talk about breaking hearts.

Carrie Bradshaw told us that there is a good way to break up with somebody. But I disagree, and I think one of the reasons we have so many "phase-outs" is because heartbreakers believe they should probably have the face-to-face conversation but can't tolerate what they might feel if they do.

How to Break Up

So ease up on your expectations. Just set your goal to actually communicate to your in-the-dark admirer that you're no longer interested. Thus, the number one tip for breaking up with someone is to actually break up with them.

If you can't do it face to face, do it over text message, email, or Facebook Chat. This is better than a phase out. Let's change the culture from the all-or-nothing face-to-face or disappearing act to make space for the means in-between. Your ex will thank you, and you'll appreciate it when you're on the other end in the future.

For example, don't say "I'm not emotionally available" or "You deserve better.

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Try something like, "I'm not totally invested in this, and I don't think it's fair to you to continue stringing you along," or "I've been seeing someone else and I think we're a better fit for each other. Don't keep liking their Instagram photos and FB statuses, sending them messages "Thinking of you!

If you feel compelled to do any of the above, ask yourself if you're doing it for them or for you. I have a really hard time knowing people don't like me, but it's unrealistic to expect that an ex is going to just let a breakup slide off their back and switch to being buds with you. Being rejected hurts, angers, and confuses peeps. The more selfless thing you can do in this situation is be firm with your decision. Remind yourself that feeling anxious, guilty, and conflicted and anything else is OK.

It means you care. Don't try to ignore the feelings or tell yourself you shouldn't feel uncomfortable because you're choosing to end it. Be kind to yourself. Anger is a natural reaction to hurt. Remember you're likely not impermeable to insult, so ensure you have supports as well to debrief any negative feedback you receive. At the end of it all, it sucks for both parties.

Hurting someone sucks, and so does getting hurt. But remember that uncomfortable feelings and difficult experiences are all part of being a human.

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The Casual Breakup

Group 10 Created with Sketch. Group 11 Created with Sketch. Group 4 Created with Sketch. And, here are some runner-up points to help with the transition: Don't try to blame it on something else or you'll just extend the process. She may end up sending a bunch of mixed signals that make things very difficult and confusing for the guy interested in dating her.

In either case these behaviors cause lots of guys to give up. Other guys will simply get annoyed, frustrated, and give up. They may even cut all connections with this girl, seeing the situation as a lost cause. You can do this by helping her cut ties from her past, and think more about the present and future. In order to do this, understand that a girl who is getting over a breakup is going to have strong emotional ties to certain activities and environments.

If she went hiking with her boyfriend every Sunday morning, or went to a certain bar for Trivia every Tuesday night, then these things are going to be strong emotional reminders of her old relationship. And merely driving past that old trivia bar will get her thinking about that old boyfriend and the fun they used to have. Instead of enabling her to dwell in the past, you want to help her move on to a bright future. Being there to support her and help her build a new life will help her turn that corner, but be careful. You want to make sure that she is aware of your romantic intentions that you want things to go further than just a fun dinner at a new restaurant.

She may not be ready to take things to the next level today, but tomorrow may be different. Just stay patient, be respectful, and persist.

How to Break Up- Advice to win you Respect

Brian M - author of posts on The Art of Charm. Once he realized attraction was something he could learn, Brian spent way too much of his free time studying and practicing everything he could find on the subject. Excited by the progress he's made in his own life since the program, he decided to start writing for AoC to help other guys do the same.

I need your advice. But she is going through a mental trauma right now.