We never directly asked each other our ages, because I already know his. He never asked for mine, and it's not something I want to bring up. I know that he knows I'm older, because i am graduating law school soon, and my facebook has my college graduation date and all that. However, today I was telling him how I was having a quarter life crisis jokingly , and he said, "no way you're only what - 24, 25?
Then we changed the subject, but still.. I felt very insecure after that. He talks to me like we're going to he dating long-term as suppose to a fling but after hearing his reaction, I'm not sure things will workout between us.
Dating at this age is hard, and many of the guys I meet are younger than me. How do guys feel about dating someone older, excluding the cougar variety..?
Should I be concerned with his reaction? I once had a nightmare that I turned 30 and he was only Share Share this post on Digg Del. I don't measure age in years. I measure it in life experience, wisdom, and maturity. I can't imagine years older than me being an issue.
My husband is 5 years older than I am. My mom was 5 years older that my dad.
One of my BFFs is about to marry a man almost 10 years her junior. As long as you are at the same life stage, age is just a. Originally Posted by d0nnivain.
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I'm several years older than my husband, it doesn't worry us. Cubs and Cougars everywhere, some men would say you're not old enough if you're only years ahead of them. If you're not older than him enough to qualify as Cougar status, then you're probably not too old for him if he's not into Cougars. Younger people make a bigger deal over shorter differences. I remember being shot down, along with plenty of other guys, by a 20yo girl I worked with when I was 19, who refused to entertain the idea of going with anyone any younger at all.
And I remember being rejected by girls of 20 when I was 24 on basis of age. I've actually had less objection to age now I'm in my 30's - I must have received the line "age is just a number" a dozen times in the last year from women 5, 10 and more years my junior. I'd guess they think I'm mature, wealthy and settled, more fool them - governed by prejudice as always. I'd date anyone from 18 to 40, but the further from me they are either side of my age the more they're going to have to be something really special.
My ideal range is and that is who I get on best with. Originally Posted by writergal. They go through milestones together, like starting a family, buying a car or house, getting married, etc. Age isn't as important as what life stage you're at. Originally Posted by AVarma. I'm not so sure about that. If a 40 year old were to go back to college I don't think he'd be compatible with an 18 year old even though technically they are the same stage in life.
In early December , my boyfriend and I had our first date. Also note that this was not because I had some notion that we would end up together long-term, but rather because I was embarrassed to be seen in public with him because of our age difference. I'm now 40, and he's 27 going on At the time, I thought that people would judge us and stare, or even worse, someone might mistake him for my son. In reality, strangers hardly know there is much of an age difference between us, and they're almost certainly unaware that the difference is about I went through all of the issues in my head thinking, Why on earth would he want to be with me?
I have wrinkles … I have cellulite. What could he see in me? I did not set out to date a younger man; I just fell madly in love with someone who is not my biological age. When the roles are reversed and an older man dates a younger woman, the men are often congratulated and revered. What is the equivalent of "cougar" for a man who has a younger partner? So, after grappling with my own insecurities and the societal taboos, there were also the judgments of friends and family.
At the beginning of our relationship, my friends were concerned that his age automatically revealed his readiness to have a long-term relationship and plan a future together.
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And, although we've been together for more than a year and a half, live together, and are planning a future with one another, individuals still find it difficult to understand why we have chosen each other. My age has been a huge barrier for some to open their minds and hearts and get to know me simply as the person whom he loves. My boyfriend and I are not immune to the effects of these judgments. Just a month ago, we had to have another talk about whether or not we should stay together or break up — simply because of the pressure put on us from hearing so many critical opinions about our relationship.
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It amazes me that even as the world seems to be progressing and we're now openly embracing many life choices, most of us still aren't comfortable with age differences in relationships. There are days when the weight of it all leaves me immobilized, sad, and unable to focus on anything. So, how do I cope when the judgments become overwhelming? I have learned a few things to help me get by, and to remind me that our love is worth fighting for:.
I am aware that people often judge what they do not understand. This is not the choice someone else may have made, they may have gone down a different path, or chosen a different type of partner. I know that this is something for them to process, and not for me to have to explain. Their fear over our choice to be together in actual fact has nothing to do with our loving relationship and us — it is their problem to solve.
In times when I ask if it is all worth it, I look at him and know that I have found the person I do not want to live without. He is the kindest, most compassionate, funniest individual I have ever encountered. Those are the times when I want to hug him tighter, tell him I love him, and just show the world that this can and will be a love for as long as we are lucky enough to have each other.